Aaron Dembe, PhD

As a therapist, I use a holistic, Common Factors mindset, meaning the most important factors in therapy are not the buzzwords or labels, but the underpinnings of a relationship based on trust, empathy, and engagement. That said, my foundation is in Humanistic, Existential, and Interpersonal Process Therapy, and I often utilize Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) techniques for interventions. I identify strongly with Nonviolent Communication (NVC), and I value social justice and diversity. What this looks like in therapy, is that I seek to get to know you in a real way, so that our work can be meaningful and personal. I seek a genuine, trusting, and empathic relationship with every patient. I work hard to maintain a safer, less judgmental space, so that it is possible to be vulnerable together, and explore what’s really going on. Often, we work with emotions – people often spend a lot of unnecessary time and energy trying to avoid certain emotions, such as fear, anger, sadness, etc., and so therapy can look like learning to experience, tolerate, and even celebrate those emotions for what they are: useful allies that basically everyone has.

Therapy can also look like sorting out what your needs are, and working out how to go about meeting them. In general, it’s usually up to you to choose WHAT we talk about in therapy, but I’m more directive when it comes to HOW we talk about it – I will invite you to go deeper into a thought or a feeling instead of glossing over it like we all do sometimes in polite conversation outside therapy. That said, I’m not afraid to share my own genuine reactions and thoughts. This type of therapy is how we deepen self-knowledge, get organized, gain wisdom, navigate relationships, and make beneficial changes, so you can live the life you want.

I look through the lens of power – who has more of it, who has less, and how it affects everyone. Issues of diversity, inclusion, equity, and social justice are important to me. I strive to maintain a safer space for patients of every identity and background, with regard to racial/ethnic identity, gender, LGBTQA+ and sexual identity, as well as other visible and invisible markers of identity, background, and experiences. I work to maintain awareness of my own privilege as a White man as a therapist, and I strive toward a more equitable society where power is shared by more people. In therapy, this may look like me opening the door to potential conversations about race, sex, gender, and other topics of identity and background, when they relate to our work together.

Because the therapeutic relationship itself can be so healing, it’s hugely important to find the right fit in a therapist.  I am down-to-earth and caring, curious and honest.  I assume that you are the only expert on you, and I hope that my tools and training can help us get more clarity and capacity based on your truth.  My wish is that we can each show up to our relationship fully and trust that we can walk together through whatever comes up.